by Scott Swain | Dec 16, 2022 | All Articles, EQ, Health, Life, Relationships |
The alarm goes off. The torture begins. You choose how long the pain will go on. Every time you hit snooze, you extend that torture for you and your mate. Pitfalls When you hit snooze, you are:- breaking a promise to yourself, reducing your integrity and self-worth....
by Scott Swain | Nov 12, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Parenting, Relationships |
Original article from 6/5/2017. One of the most liberating ideas I’ve come to is that being excessively positive can sometimes be as destructive as being negative. What? Are you kidding? What possible drawbacks could there be from always having a positive...
by Scott Swain | Nov 11, 2022 | All Articles, EQ, Life, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
A zoom-able version of the above image is near the bottom of this article. Originally written July 28, 2022. How much time do we actually save by taking short cuts with our communication? I’m a fan of efficiency. This is why I simultaneously sympathize with and...
by Scott Swain | Sep 26, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Life, Parenting, Relationships, Unschooling |
Excerpt from Practical Empathy by Scott Swain. Originally written in September 2022. Permissive <> Practical <> Authoritarian A friend came to visit the other day. Let’s call her Jane. She complained some that she was really glad to have somehow found the...
by Scott Swain | Aug 20, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Life, Relationships |
Following is an argument for using a form of empathy I’ve developed called Practical Empathy (PEQ), based on and similar to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. Empathy is not agreement, so you risk no loss of integrity by practicing...
by Scott Swain | Aug 20, 2022 | All Articles, EQ, Liberty, Parenting, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
vir-tue [ vurchoo ] 1. goodness: the quality of being morally good or righteous 2. good quality: a quality that is morally good 3. admirable quality: a quality that is good or admirable, but not necessarily in terms of morality. “If you make a choice under...
by Scott Swain | Aug 2, 2022 | All Videos, Parenting, Relationships, Vids-EQ, Vids-Gaming, Vids-Humor, Vids-NVC, Vids-Parenting, Vids-Pinned |
Video is below Animation created January 2012 Watch directly on Odysee (LBRY). Mom wants to go to the store. Jimmy wants to keep playing games. Mom chooses empathy. – When children are raised with recognition of and respect for their needs, they grow up...
by Scott Swain | Aug 1, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Marxism, Parenting, Relationships, Vids-NVC |
Originally written by Scott Swain in 2016. Based on his book, Practical Empathy, and NVC. Who started it? I think most of us can agree that forcing another person to do something against their will rarely works out as we’d like to see. Yet we do this with...
by Scott Swain | Jun 5, 2022 | All Articles, Business, EQ, Life, Parenting, Relationships |
from Scott Swain’s upcoming book, Practical Empathy I used to think fear was the emotion underlying anger. Until a woman in one of my Emotional Intelligence Play Groups said it was actually frustration. I thought about that. I tried to think of a situation where...
by Scott Swain | Mar 20, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Health, Life, Parenting, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
The increase in unhealthy eating, sedentary lifestyles, technology, social media, various drugs, public education, and a certain kind of parenting have contributed to a steep increase in obesity (including children!), diabetes, cancer, and other ailments, including...
by Scott Swain | Feb 28, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Parenting, Relationships |
This article is an analysis of “The Power Of Wholeness And Healing: Ho’oponopono”https://www.compassionatelistening.org/post/power-of-wholeness… First, I want to point out the potential positive aspects of the above mentioned system. I...
by Scott Swain | Feb 25, 2022 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Parenting, Relationships |
Originally written in 2016. Updated. When you think of how much you trust people, do you think in terms of: (A) I either trust them or I don’t. OR (B) My trust for a person has a range from “no trust” or “very little trust” through...
by Scott Swain | Dec 2, 2021 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Life, Parenting, Relationships |
Originally written in February 2022. Does anyone else notice an increase in cussing? In what experiences, subcultures, or media in your day to day life?What do you believe the affects are? I want to be clear: I’ve zero moral issues with cussing. My issue is that...
by Scott Swain | Oct 4, 2021 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Liberty, Life, Politics, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
What if being “highly independent” can make it difficult for us to see the value of strong relationships and our “me-first” attitude, completely logical, in reality, can be supplemented with even just a bit of compromise at times in order to...
by Scott Swain | Sep 1, 2021 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Life, Relationships |
I see wisdom… and a problem with the message of this meme: “A wise man once said… nothing. He let her vent and then they had sex afterwards”. If the idea is for the man to deeply listen with empathy instead of defensiveness or advice, then yay,...
by Scott Swain | Aug 19, 2021 | All Articles, EQ, Liberty, Parenting, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
Updated. Originally written in 2016. An effective way to spread Voluntaryism while rewiring your brain for increased awareness, control of your own emotions, understanding of responsibility, and personal power. Have you ever wished you could demonstrate your...
by Scott Swain | Apr 2, 2021 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Life, Relationships |
by Jim Ateoi Why do men and women seem to have such different goals, interests, and behaviors? Both men and women often get mad or frustrated because they don’t get what they want from the other. They also get mad or frustrated with themselves for making choices that...
by Scott Swain | Jul 22, 2020 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Relationships, Voluntaryism |
Official “needs inventory” as originally created by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory Feelings:...
by Scott Swain | Jun 9, 2020 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Marxism, Parenting, Relationships |
Originally written by Scott Swain in 2017. Not authoritarian or permissive What I’m recommending is neither “permissive parenting” or “authoritarian parenting”. It’s part of a growing movement called “peaceful parenting”...
by Scott Swain | May 16, 2020 | All Articles, Business, EQ, Life, Relationships |
After many years of practicing the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) method of empathy and then creating my own system based on NVC, called Practical Empathy (PEQ), I’ve become much more aware of when I’m being lied to. How did this happen? My...
by Scott Swain | May 11, 2020 | All Articles, Culture, EQ, Liberty, Relationships |
Evaluation Evaluations and moralistic judgements are when we judge another person [often as “wrong” or “bad” but also including terms like “good” and “awesome”] when they do things that are not in agreement with our...
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