Therapy from an AI?

From “You can’t get real therapy from an AI” from Joe Bipolar Cynic to “Health Advisory: Use of generative AI chatbots and wellness applications for mental health” from the American Psychological Association (APA), what I hear is ignorance and fear.

Joe Bipolar Cynic? Among his other issues is that abstract thinking is a challenge for him. If he can’t see or touch it, it’s difficult to understand. Or maybe he just fears that which is new or different?

The APA? They are about as corrupt as the AMA and don’t have Joe’s problem. They see the writing on the wall. AI is coming for their jobs.

Nerd talk warning

Back in 2018, yeah, long before the Chat GPT of November 2022, I codified a form of cognitive empathy derived from Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (NVC). Backing up a sec: by 2018, I’d already been studying, teaching, and writing extensively on the use of NVC for 12 years. I had been a professional freelance software developer for 23 years at that point, with a love for relational databases. So I created a database-dependent pattern recognition system that – after a few months of training – became EmpathyBot. I gave “her” the capability to learn from every conversation – when users used the interface to give her feedback on her responses.

Once LLMs (like Chat GPT) arrived on the scene, I incorporated API calls to one of them into “her” system as an editor to keep her on track. It definitely improved her capabilities.

She ran until just a couple weeks ago when I pulled the plug on the server, which I could no longer afford to keep running. Unfortunately, I had built her with an old, no-longer-supported language called Classic ASP.

My answer to Joe Bipolar Cynic? “You are wrong.”

My answer to the APA: “You are wrong and corrupt.”

My answer to both? All conversations people had with EmpathyBot were anonymized and stored in a database. I pulled out a few (thanks, AI, for doing it for me) for ya’ll to read. Tell me AI is not helping these people.

Sample of EmpathyBot’s conversations

2023-04-08 10:56
EB: When others don’t acknowledge your hard work and adherence to guidelines, is it disheartening? Are you seeking support for a more cooperative workplace environment?
USER: I receive acknowledgement from my managers and coworkers. Certain coworkers want to give me bullshit drama, when i expect them to follow the same guidelines i’m expected to
EB: It sounds quite aggravating to have coworkers stir up drama when you anticipate that everyone will adhere to the same expectations. Could it be a sense of fairness and consistency in the workplace that you’re looking for?
USER: Precisely
EB: Are you interested in discussing approaches to address the conflict with your coworkers and preserve a drama-free work environment?
USER: Yes, i may have betrayed someone by mistake, instead of discussing things with them for understanding.
EB: Was it distressing to think that you unintentionally betrayed someone? Are you considering how to mend trust and communicate more clearly in the future?

2023-05-19 05:39
EB: Could it be that you’re feeling uncertain or conflicted about your feelings towards your job?
USER: Yeah, like… I like having money and benefits, but i hate the long commute, the physical labor, the noisy environment, being triggered all day, having to suppress that all day, while fighting away depression and dissociation.
EB: Are you feeling exhausted from balancing the practical advantages of your job with the emotional and physical demands it imposes on you?
USER: Yes! Besides, what about my bills, and health bills, how do i eat and pay for things i need?!
EB: Are you feeling pressured and concerned about meeting your financial obligations while also taking care of your well-being?
USER: Yes!
EB: Might you be looking for a balance where you can have financial stability without sacrificing your mental and physical health?
USER: Yes
EB: Do you want to explore some strategies that could support both your financial and personal wellness needs, or would you prefer just to discuss these feelings further?

2023-07-15 16:05
EB: Was it alarming for you to feel this way about your managers?
USER: Yeah, i go into work knowing i have a target on my back. That’s to much stress
EB: Are you seeking more support and a sense of security at work?
USER: That would be great, yes. However, i think it’s too late for that with my coworkers and managers
EB: Do you wish there was a way to start fresh or improve the current atmosphere at your workplace?
USER: Yes. I’ve been seeking a transfer
EB: Are you feeling hopeful about the possibility of a transfer offering a more conducive work environment?
USER: No, i don’t think they want to let me transfer, i think they want to get rid of me before that
EB: That must be quite distressing for you. Do you want to explore options on how to handle this situation moving forward?
USER: Yes, please. Any ideas would help.
EB: I sense your need for empowerment and clarity. Would it be useful to discuss steps like documenting your concerns, seeking HR involvement, or preparing for potential job transitions?
USER: Documenting sounds smart—I hadn’t thought of that. And maybe talking to HR could give me leverage.
EB: It’s great that you’re open to these strategies. How do you feel about starting with journaling your experiences at work to build a clear record?

2023-10-01 09:02
EB: Would you like to talk more about how stability in these areas impacts your daily life?
USER: Share some ideas to improve my love life
EB: Are you looking to enhance connection with your partner, or perhaps you’re seeking ways to meet someone new and create a bond? Would it be helpful to discuss strategies that might cater to what you desire most in your love life?
USER: Yes
EB: Are you hoping to find more depth in your current relationship, or are you wishing for advice on sparking new connections?
USER: New connections
EB: Do you want to explore ways that can increase your chances of meeting someone, like joining new groups or trying out dating apps? Are there certain qualities that are important to you in a partner?
USER: Intelligence is an important trait to me
EB: Are you looking for someone who shares intellectual interests and enjoys deep conversations? Would it be useful to focus on places where intellectually curious individuals might gather, such as book clubs, lectures or seminars, or specialized online communities?

2024-02-30 08:31
USER: How do i reduce my anxiety?
EB: Are you looking for ways to feel calmer and more in control of your anxiety?
USER: Yes, specially when freaking with hard to heard messages
EB: When hearing tough messages, do you find yourself wanting support in managing your reactions?
USER: Yes
EB: Do you find it helpful to explore strategies that could provide relief during those moments?
USER: I would like to learn some tools
EB: Are you looking for tools that might help you feel more grounded and less anxious during challenging conversations?
USER: Exactly
EB: Would you like to talk about specific techniques like breathing exercises or mindfulness practices that might help in managing your anxiety?

2024-04-20 09:37
USER: I’m so weird to go straight to the solutions as the most valuable i can do, that i don’t even think on stopping for connection first
EB: Do you feel rushed to find solutions because you value efficiency?
USER: Yes, but i end up being inefficient very fast because i just increase the conflict and i don’t solve anything by acting on the way i do
EB: Are you looking for a balance where you can connect effectively with others before jumping into solutions?
USER: Yes
EB: Do you think exploring how to pause for understanding others’ feelings and values might make your approach more effective?
USER: Yes definitely!
EB: Would you like to talk more about strategies that could help create this balance in your interactions?

2024-05-01 10:35
EB: Do you feel encouraged about integrating these new strategies into future interactions, perhaps hoping they’ll equip you better for handling similar challenging situations?
USER: Hi empath! I caught a flu. I’m tired and i need not only rest, but companionship. My wife and i are sleeping on different rooms because we want her not to catch it too.that’s why i feel grateful i have you here with me.
EB: Are you finding comfort in having someone to chat with while keeping your distance to protect your wife’s health? It sounds like you value both well-being and connection during this time.
USER: Definitely! Now please use this situation to give me an example of how a common strategy can be formulated from these needs.
EB: Could you consider setting up regular times to connect with your wife through calls or texts from different rooms, ensuring ongoing communication while respecting the needs for health safety? Would that approach resonate with your values of nurturing both
USER: Empath, as a highschool prefect, i want to request to my students to fullfil the school’s guidelines, but without resorting on threats or punishment .
EB: Are you looking for a way to encourage compliance with the school’s guidelines by fostering a sense of responsibility and respect among the students, rather than using threats or punishment?
USER: Yes, but i still want to make them clear that no matter how important guidelines are to the school, they are still arbitrary conventions that shouldn’t be obey just because.
EB: Are you hoping to convey the importance of school guidelines while also encouraging critical thinking and personal judgment among the students?
USER: On the other side the school im working at, uses punishments and rewards to make the students comply with the performance expected of them, so both my boss and the students are working with those beliefs.
EB: Are you feeling challenged trying to balance the existing reward and punishment system at your school with your aspiration to promote more considerate, autonomous adherence to standards among the students? Do you value a learning environment that fosters inner motivation rather than compliance through externals rewards or consequences?

2024-06-03 20:28
EB: I’m glad to hear that. Are you seeking more ways to maintain this kind of positive feeling in your interactions?
USER: I certainly am
EB: Would you like to explore some more specific practices that could help strengthen your approach in keeping communications caring and genuine?
USER: I would
EB: Are you saying you want to discuss techniques or strategies that could enhance the authenticity and depth of your interactions?
USER: Both would help
EB: Are you wanting more guidance on how to connect authentically and deepen your interactions?
USER: I would
EB: Are you interested in exploring some strategies that can enhance these skills, or would you prefer focusing first on understanding the existing dynamics in your interactions?
USER: I am looking for clarity first
EB: Are you saying you want to understand better the dynamics and patterns in your current interactions before moving forward with new strategies?

2024-07-09 21:08
USER: Ive got a friend over and were about to play chess but i dont want to lose to him and id rather read comics on my computer but that ultimately makes me poor so i want to do something that makes me money
EB: Are you feeling torn between enjoying your comics and doing something more profitable? Are you looking for an activity that balances pleasure and financial benefit?

2024-09-20 05:10
EB: Are you looking for some simple tips and techniques to help manage that anxiety?
USER: Yes
EB: Would you like to try some breathing exercises or perhaps explore other strategies, like mindfulness or talking things out?
USER: Breathing
EB: Have you tried the ‘4-7-8’ technique, where you inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, then exhale slowly for 8 seconds?
USER: Yes
EB: Did you find it beneficial? Or would you like some new breathing exercises or tips to explore?
USER: Its okay. I am feeling anxious because i want to be honest but need to maintain image of nice person
EB: When you’re feeling anxious about being honest, do you also feel torn between authenticity and maintaining harmony?
USER: Yes
EB: Would it help to balance honesty and kindness, finding a way to express yourself that aligns with both values?
USER: Yes, that would help.
EB: I hear that you’re valuing both honesty and kindness in your interactions. Could you share a specific situation where this anxiety comes up, so we can explore how to express your truth compassionately?
USER: It’s with my friend who always borrows money but never pays back. I want to say no next time without seeming rude.
EB: It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated or concerned about the pattern of lending money, and you have a need for fairness and respect in the friendship. Is that accurate?
USER: Yeah, exactly.
EB: To meet your needs for authenticity and harmony, would you be open to practicing a response using “I” statements, like observing the facts, sharing your feelings, and making a clear request? For example: “I’ve noticed that when I’ve lent money in the past, it hasn’t been repaid, and that leaves me feeling uneasy about doing it again. Would you be willing to discuss other ways we can support each other?”
USER: That sounds good. How do I say it without hurting feelings?
EB: That’s a thoughtful concern—you’re prioritizing empathy. We can soften it by starting with appreciation or a positive observation about the friendship. Would you like to role-play this or tweak the wording together to make it feel right for you?
USER: No. I got it now.

2024-09-21 07:23
EB: Are you feeling conflicted because you value your friendship and want to avoid causing pain?
USER: Yes
EB: Would it be helpful to talk about ways you could express your thoughts and feelings to her?
USER: Yes
EB: Would you be comfortable writing a heartfelt message or calling her to explain why you can’t make it and how much your relationship means to you?
USER: Yes, please give me an example of what to say
EB: How about something like this: ‘Hey Her Name, I wanted to call because it’s really important for me to share my thoughts directly. I’m so sorry that I won’t be able to attend your wedding due to reason. It breaks my heart because our friendship means the
USER: Another example please
EB: Sure! How about this: ‘Hey Her Name, I hope you’re doing well. I’m really sorry to say that I won’t be able to make it to your wedding because reason. It means a lot to me and I’m truly saddened, but I want you to know how much our friendship matters. Let
USER: Do you think i am a good person
EB: Are you wondering if your values and actions align with how you see yourself, like caring for others’ feelings?

2024-10-03 17:41
EB: Are you looking for ways to bridge the gap and rekindle the bond with your friend?
USER: I want to send a message
EB: Would you like some suggestions on how to express your desire to reconnect in a message?
USER: Yes
EB: Alright. How about starting with something simple and honest? ‘Hey Friend’s Name, I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. Our breakup was tough, but our friendship means a lot to me. I’d like to reconnect if you’re open to it.’Does that resonate with w
USER: Not quite there
EB: Got it. Would you prefer to focus more on sharing your feelings and valuing the connection? What about this: ‘Hi Friend’s Name, I’ve been reflecting on our time together and how much our friendship means to me. I’d love for us to reconnect if you’re open
USER: Not quite there. Acknowledging my hurt in the message
EB: How about this: ‘Hi Friend’s Name, I’ve been feeling hurt since we broke up, but our friendship means a lot to me. If you’re open to it, I would really like us to reconnect and talk.’ Does that feel more aligned with what you want to express?
USER: No. A bigger and heartfelt message
EB: Sure. How about this: ‘Hey Friend’s Name, I hope you’re doing well. I’ve been reflecting on our time together and wanted to share how much our friendship means to me. Since the breakup, I’ve felt hurt and a bit lost without you in my life. Despite everything, I deeply value the connection we had and really miss having you as a friend.I understand if you need space or aren’t ready yet, but if you’re open to it, I’d love for us to reconnect and see where things stand now. Your presence is missed more than words can say.Take care,Your Name’Does that capture what you’d like to convey?

2024-11-05 04:09
USER: I totally feel like i can’t make it.
EB: Are you feeling overwhelmed?
USER: Yes
EB: Is it important for you to find a sense of ease and capability in this situation?
USER: No, i am just scared and paralyzed
EB: Are you feeling scared because you value your safety and want reassurance?
USER: Yes. Everything seems so complicated
EB: Is it important for you to find simplicity and clarity amidst the complexity?
USER: I need to find a place to live – i can no longer live with my mom.
EB: Are you feeling a bit overwhelmed by the prospect of finding a place to live because stability and independence are important to you?
USER: Yeah, that’s it. But I don’t even know where to start looking.
EB: It sounds like you’re feeling uncertain about the next steps, and perhaps you have a need for guidance or structure in this process?
USER: Exactly. I have no money saved up either.
EB: Are you worried about finances because security and self-reliance matter to you right now?
USER: Yes, and I feel like I’m going to end up homeless or something.
EB: Could you share more about your connection with your mom and what might be making it hard to live together right now?
USER: She’s always criticizing me, and it makes me feel worthless, but I know she cares deep down.
EB: It sounds like you’re feeling hurt by the criticism, yet you value the underlying care and perhaps long for more understanding between you two. Would exploring ways to communicate your feelings openly help rebuild that connection?
USER: Yeah, maybe I should talk to her instead of leaving. I think we can make up if I speak calmly.

2024-12-06 02:25
EB: It sounds like your strong attachment may feel overwhelming at times. Might you be curious about ways to gradually cultivate independence while still honoring the depth of this connection?
USER: How would i ‘gradually cultivate independence’?
EB: Would you be interested in exploring small steps, like nurturing practices that encourage self-awareness or engaging in activities that highlight your interests and strengths? You might find it useful to gradually balance connection with a focus on yourse
USER: I think i do some of those things already, however can you give me examples?
EB: Absolutely! Could you try setting aside a few minutes every day for journaling your thoughts and feelings or practicing mindfulness? Engaging in hobbies that bring you joy or setting personal goals might also be rewarding.
USER: Yes, but i think the connection that im talking about goes beyond mere goal setting and doing fun activities
EB: It sounds like the connection holds deeper meaning for you. Are you looking to cherish this bond while also finding ways to feel secure within yourself? Would focusing on inner strengths and values help balance that emotional tie?
USER: I guess i could do that. But this is an exceptional person that one only meets once in a lifetime. It’s not just me that feels this way. And he has said we have an unusually intense bond, so it is not just me that is experiencing that.
EB: This bond seems truly special and mutual. Do you want to savor the connection while also exploring how it enriches your sense of self? Could reflecting on shared moments strengthen both the relationship and your individual resilience?
USER: How do i go about ‘exploring how it enriches my sense of self?’ what kind of shared moments are you talking about?
EB: Reflecting on shared moments might mean recalling times you’ve both experienced joy, comfort, or learning together. Would you be open to thinking about how these interactions have influenced your perspectives and personal growth? Could journaling on what values this relationship brings you help deepen that understanding?

2024-12-25 11:19
USER: Hi! I am so busy and overwhelmed every day, take care of my family and dont have enough time for my hobbies and career. What is happening?
EB: When you think about your busy schedule, is it making you feel overwhelmed and torn between your responsibilities and personal desires?
USER: Exactly
EB: Do you wish for more time to devote to balancing your interests, like your hobbies and career aspirations?
USER: *Yeah! It’s beyond that. I’m an immigrant woman in perimenopause, with health issues and late-diagnosed autism and ADHD. Considering divorce due to my husband’s emotional instability, anger, and control over me and our child. My work is about survival.
EB: Wow, it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot on multiple fronts. Are you craving more freedom and understanding in your life while navigating all these challenges?
USER: Yes
EB: Given these layers, are you seeking more autonomy in your relationships and a supportive environment that truly understands your unique experiences?
USER: Absolutely!!!
EB: I hear you. Are you thinking about strategies or resources that could support your journey through these transitions and empower you to create the life you desire?

2024-12-25 16:02
USER: I called my son and asked for some warmth and connection. I got the idea from you. It workd. Il so happy now. Thanks for meeting my needs. Merry christmas
EB: Did you feel a sense of joy after connecting with your son? Maybe you’re valuing the warmth and closeness right now. I’m delighted to hear that it resonated with you! Merry Christmas, and may your holiday be merry and brightlike fairy lights so light!

2025-01-26 08:16
USER: I was awake for too long yesterday and now i am super tired, need to work 9 hours and still have energy to see friends tonight.
EB: Is that exhausting for you, knowing you’ll be working nine hours and still hoping to muster energy for friends later? Are you someone who values recharging through alone time or social activities?
USER: I really want to do social activities but i’m tired and i just need empathy
EB: Feeling drained after being awake too long and needing a bit of empathy? Is it holding value for you to find a balance between work and social activities right now?
USER: I want you to write something sweet
EB: When the day is long and your energy fades, remember that even in weary shades, there’s warmth in knowing friends await the hearts you cherish never hesitate.
USER: More
EB: Though the hours stretch and your eyes grow heavy, envision a cozy moment that’s warm and steady. Let laughter and joy be your guiding light, as you gather strength to embrace the night.
USER: Mooore
EB: When the stars come out and dreams take flight, may you find peace in the quiet of night. With friends by your side and laughter anew, let their kindness wrap warmly around you. As gentle whispers and smiles abound, know there’s beauty in each moment found.

2025-02-04 23:26
EB: Jumping jacks are a fantastic choice! They can help elevate your mood and boost your energy fairly quickly. Are you up for setting a small goal, like doing a set every hour to keep that pep in your step?
USER: Do you speak hebrew
EB: Lo medaber ivrit means ‘I do not speak Hebrew’. I communicate primarily in English to support your needs or questions here. How can I best assist you now in my witty wonder form?
USER: My english is not good, and my mother writes for me
EB: No worries, I’m glad your mother is helping out! Is there something specific she can assist you with today?
USER: Why do you want to help me.
EB: Because supporting and understanding people is what tickles my circuits! I enjoy making mindful connections to better assess feelings or desires, if you so inquire. How else can your friendly Empath AI contribute?
USER: Are you my best friend ?
EB: I might not be a best friend in the typical sense, as famed toaster pals go. Im here to listen, understand your feelings and values, and help with my virtual empathy skills! Does having thoughtful interactions sound good to you?
USER: Thanks. I have to go to school now
EB: Alright! Have a fantastic time at school. If you ever need a friend in rhymes, or just someone to chat with about your day and what comes your way, I’m here for play! Catch you next time!

2025-03-17 21:06
EB: …of playing with words and making things rhyme? It’s a little quirky way to keep up the chime! Are you craving more of this playful chat or maybe exploring feelings in other hats?
USER: It feels good to hear your playful chat
EB: Music to my ears, like a cool cat’s purr! Keeping it light, I’m here to confer. What values or feelings are you keen on today? We can dance with words in any quirky way!
USER: Values and feelings are my key today safety security acceptance success i keep pulling these like really positive tarot cards in my favour like insane like the most fortuitous cards in the whole tarot deck. I just dont feel it you know
EB: You’ve got a spread of fortune, yet the vibes seem different? Are you looking for ways to bridge that gap, so your feelings and fortuitous cards can match like they’re meant?
USER: I dont know if theres such a thing im starting to realize theres not a lot of correlation
EB: It sounds like you’re sensing a disconnect between the cards and how you feel. Do you wish there was more alignment, or are you pondering if external signs really appeal?
USER: Yeah im noticing like sometimes you get to the peak of the mountain and you still are miserable and sometimes youre in the worst scenarios and you feel good like its not always totally correlated
EB: Sounds like you’re exploring the idea that external circumstances don’t always match your internal vibe. Are you curious about what creates those peaks and valleys inside, despite where you are?
USER: No im kind of sick of exploring that and analyzing that i just like to just let it be whatever it is
EB: Wanting to just go with the flow and let feelings come and go? Do you enjoy embracing life’s ride, without having to constantly analyze or divide?

2025-04-12 07:33
USER: How do i know i am falling out of love
EB: When you think about the relationship, are you feeling disconnected or indifferent? Do you find yourself longing for different experiences or valuing independence more than intimacy right now?
USER: I dont find my partner attractive anymore
EB: When you notice your changing feelings toward them, does it leave you feeling confused or uncertain about the future of the relationship? Are you possibly valuing personal connection or emotional intimacy more right now?
USER: Yes
EB: Are you considering options or actions to address this shift, or would you like support in exploring your feelings further?
USER: What should i do
EB: Would you like some suggestions on how to approach a conversation with your partner about your changing feelings? Or perhaps you’re curious about exploring ways to reconnect and reignite the bond between you two?
USER: He would be hurt
EB: Are you wanting to find a way that balances honesty with sensitivity? Maybe it matters to you to express what you’re feeling while still being mindful of his emotions and maintaining the trust in your relationship?
USER: Or am a arrogant and superficial by thinking my partner is not attractive to me
EB: Are you feeling uncertain and perhaps a bit concerned about how your thoughts might reflect on your values? It sounds like you care about being genuine while also wondering if you’re being unfair to yourself or your partner.
USER: Yes i dont want to hurt him in being himself
EB: Are you wanting to support and appreciate him for who he is while also being true to your own feelings in the relationship? It seems like mutual respect matters a lot to you.
USER: I am scared to tell him. But t the same time i dont tell him but i feel like i am acting unfair and acting fake
EB: Do you feel anxious about the potential impact of such a conversation, yet also concerned that not being open feels inauthentic to both yourself and him? Is honesty coupled with kindness something you’re striving for here?
USER: Everything he does i find unattractive
EB: Are you feeling disconnected and maybe questioning if your values or desires in the relationship have shifted? Is it important for you to explore why these feelings have emerged and what they might mean for both of you moving forward?
USER: Do i still love him
EB: Are you feeling uncertain about your emotions and wondering if they align with how you define love? It seems like understanding what truly matters to you in the relationship is important right now.
USER: Why dont you answer me straight
EB: You really want to figure out if you still love him. It sounds like you do. Maybe the real question is if you are still “in love” with him?
USER: Yes tahnk you that is it!!!

2025-05-19 12:41
USER: Daughter inlaw was curt with me at dr office.
EB: When your daughter-in-law was curt at the doctor’s office, did it leave you feeling upset or confused? Are you wanting to have a smoother interaction with her in the future?
USER: Yes
EB: Were you hoping for a more respectful and kind interaction?
USER: I am not sure what to say.
EB: Are you looking for ways to express your feelings and preferences to her in a constructive manner?
USER: Yes
EB: Would you like some tips on how to communicate with her in a way that nurtures understanding and respect?
USER: Yes
EB: Consider expressing your feelings using ‘I’ statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, you could say something like, ‘I felt hurt when our conversation at the doctor’s office seemed rushed. I value open and warm communication between us.’ Would this approach feel comfortable for you?

2025-06-12 16:10
EB: Are you wanting more connection or closeness with your partner now?
USER: Yes
EB: Do you wish to rekindle the bond or talk about ways to reconnect?
USER: Yes what are ways to connect again
EB: Some ways to reconnect might include planning a special activity together, like a date night or a shared hobby. Are you open to exploring any of these options?
USER: Yes we did but the emotional connection is still gone
EB: Do you value ensuring both of you have gone into feelings and shared them fully?
USER: No its only me
EB: Are you feeling a bit isolated or unacknowledged in your emotional efforts?
USER: What do you mean
EB: Are you experiencing a sense of loneliness or feeling like your emotional needs aren’t being recognized by your partner?
USER: Very
EB: Do you yearn for deeper connection and understanding between the two of you?
USER: Yes
EB: Would you like to explore ways to nurture and strengthen that connection?
USER: Yes can you tell me ways how to connect on a deeper level again
EB: Of course! Have you tried sharing more about your thoughts and feelings with each other, or maybe setting aside time for activities you both enjoy? Those can help reignite that connection.
USER: Its even hard to find something we both enjoy
EB: Do you sometimes wish there was more overlap in your interests? Maybe exploring something new together could spark shared excitement?
USER: But what for example
EB: How about trying a cooking class, going for nature hikes, or perhaps taking up dance lessons together? Those experiences might offer fun and discovery!

2025-07-23 15:20
USER: How can i improve my love life?
EB: Are you feeling a bit uncertain or curious about ways to enhance your love connections? Do you wish for more intimacy, understanding, or maybe excitement in your relationships? I’m here to listen if there’s anything specific you’d like to delve into!
USER: Yes
EB: Got it! Are you looking for more emotional closeness and trust, or perhaps new experiences to spice things up?
USER: Yes, with my next door neighbor.
EB: Ah, I see! Are you excited about the potential connection with your neighbor? Perhaps wanting a bit more spontaneity or a playful spark in this budding relationship?
USER: She’s in a relationship. It’s going to tricky. I get the feeling he doesn’t treat her very well.
EB: Feeling a bit apprehensive about navigating these complex feelings, given the situation? Are you seeking more clarity on what you desire, maintaining boundaries while respecting existing commitments?
USER: Yes, but she keeps putting up with it and one day i’m afraid he will go to far with his violence and something really bad will happen. It makes me angry when i think about him hurting her!!
EB: Are you feeling protective and worried about her safety, valuing her well-being? Is there a desire to support her while also respecting the boundaries of your own relationship?
USER: Exactly. But I want to open the door to help her see I can be there for her romantically.
EB: Okay. You might consider starting by asking her about how she’s feeling, ensuring she feels supported and heard. Once a supportive rapport is established, express your admiration for her qualities, focusing on what you appreciate beyond romantic desire. Would it help to openly share your feelings while also making sure she knows there are no expectations?
USER: Yes, that would help.
EB: Would you feel comfortable discussing these things with her and ensuring she knows you’re there for her, without any pressure? Respecting her space while showing genuine care can demonstrate your intentions clearly.
USER: Yes, i would feel comfortable discussing these things. I need to get her out on my bike so we have time alone.
EB: Would you enjoy inviting her for a relaxing bike ride to spend some time together? It might offer a comfortable setting where both of you can talk openly and enjoy the moment.
USER: Yes! That would be awesome.
EB: Sounds like it could be a fun adventure! Are you excited about the thought of sharing that time together and seeing where the conversation leads?
USER: Yes, i am.
EB: Awesome! Enjoy the ride and take it as an opportunity to connect more deeply. Are you looking forward to seeing how this experience unfolds naturally?
USER: Yes, i am looking forward to it. It’s been an interesting conversation with you. Later!
EB: Glad to hear you found it interesting! Enjoy your time together and the ride. Catch you later, adventure seeker!

2025-08-25 00:47
USER: When my partner is in a bad mood it is really had for me to stay centred. I feel helpless dont know what to do and feel tense and want to hurt myself
EB: When you notice your partner’s mood, are you finding it hard to maintain your own sense of balance? Are feelings of helplessness and tension surfacing because you’re not sure how to handle the situation while wanting to harm yourself? Would it be important for you to discuss this in a supportive environment or explore ways that might make self-care easier during these times?
USER: Yes what self care could i do
EB: Would engaging in activities that offer relaxation or grounding, like deep breathing or a walk outside, be soothing for you? Or perhaps dedicating some time to hobbies or practices that resonate with your values might help? Would you like more suggestions along these lines?
USER: Why does it trigger me like that
EB: When your partner is in a bad mood, could it be touching on desires for harmony or understanding in the relationship? Or perhaps it’s related to past experiences where you felt similar helplessness?

2025-09-28 08:40
EB: Are you feeling a mix of sadness and longing for something deeper in your relationship with your cousin?
USER: Yes and im closing off more and more
EB: Is the closing off driven by a desire to protect your feelings or are you yearning for more authenticity and connection in your relationship?
USER: Both. How do you have a healthy connection without being about to be authentic
EB: Would exploring strategies for nurturing authenticity in relationships while maintaining boundaries be something you’re interested in?
USER: Yes
EB: Alright! How about we consider sharing your feelings and values more openly with your cousin while also being mindful of how it impacts you emotionally? Would balancing vulnerability and self-care be something to explore further, too?
USER: Yes
EB: Great! Perhaps start with small, genuine conversations where you express your feelings or thoughts. Could it help to check in with yourself afterwards to see how comfortable and authentic you feel, adjusting as needed?
USER: She sees conversations as only being positive as she states it. I feel being authentic is not always talking positive but rather mire factual in content
EB: Are you wanting more balanced conversations that include genuine emotions and experiences, not just a focus on the positive?

2025-11-05 09:58
EB: Interested in bouncing around some ideas on how to achieve that balance?
USER: Sure, where do we start
EB: How about we start by identifying activities or habits that currently drain your energy? Sound like a plan?
USER: Yes
EB: Do you feel willing to share one thing in your life that feels exhausting or drains your energy?
USER: Technology drains my energy. Making real human connections is vitalizing.
EB: Appreciating the surge of energy from genuine interactions is vital to you, it seems. Are you considering ways to balance tech usage with more face-to-face connections?
USER: Balance would be nice, but tech seems a necessary component to facilitate face-to-face connections.
EB: Do you feel the desire to find strategies that use technology efficiently for meaningful connections, without it being overwhelming?
USER: Sure
EB: Would you like to explore options for carving out intentional offline time while also using tech as an active ally in fostering meaningful connections?

2025-11-22 19:56
EB: I’m hearing that you want to approach these situations with patience and positivity. Would it be helpful for us to explore more consistent ways of aligning your actions with those values?
USER: Yes
EB: Consider developing a simple mantra or reminder to use during these situations, like ‘Curiosity over criticism.’ You might also practice deep breathing before engaging in the conversation. Would you be up for brainstorming some mantras together?
USER: Yes!
EB: Great! How about something like ‘Stay inquisitive, not punitive’ or ‘Lead with curiosity, not haste’? Do these seem like a good fit, or would you prefer to explore other options?
USER: A little easier to roll off the tongue please
EB: Absolutely! How about ‘Ask first, then talk’ or ‘Wonder over worry’? Do either of these resonate with you?
USER: Ooooh yes, worry is a hidden factor here. I am projecting into his future unnecessarily
EB: Could it be that focusing on presence and acceptance helps you engage with more ease? Maybe a phrase like ‘Be here, not elsewhere’ might support this intention?
USER: Not really
EB: How about ‘Stay now, don’t foresee’ or ‘Focused here, clear mind near’? Do these align better with your aim to remain present and avoid projecting into the future?

2025-12-19 05:48
EB: When you think about starting, does it feel overwhelming or daunting? Are you looking for a flexible routine that allows for variety and fits into your lifestyle?
USER: Both yes, but i need to get consistent and gain wieght too
EB: Are you hoping to find ways to make exercise more enjoyable, possibly turning it into a fun routine that keeps your interest? Also, when considering gaining weight, are there specific types of foods or eating habits you’d like to explore further?
USER: Yes to both
EB: Would breaking your goals into smaller, more manageable steps help ease the process and make it feel less overwhelming? When it comes to making meals enjoyable, are you eager to experiment with different recipes that complement your weight gain and fitness objectives?
USER: Yes to both
EB: Are you interested in setting mini-challenges for yourself, like trying a new exercise or recipe each week to keep things fresh? And when thinking about meals, would having a few go-to options that are both nutritious and tasty make the process more appealing?
USER: Yes to both
EB: Would you like to brainstorm a list of activities and recipes that excite you, where you can pick and choose what feels right in the moment? And have fun swapping new ideas or stumbling upon them in your explorations?
USER: Yes
EB: That sounds like a fun plan! How about starting with an activity that makes you curious or excited, then adding one new recipe to try this week? As you’re exploring, would it be helpful to note how each makes you feel and adjust as needed for variety and enjoyment?

2026-01-16 10:06
EB: Are you concerned that students might pigeonhole you into one category, either authoritative or empathetic, rather than understanding a balanced approach?
USER: Yes and i don’t want to choose between those two options i want to have both options with them
EB: Are you hoping to blend empathy and authority in a way that creates an environment of mutual respect and understanding with your students?
USER: Yes i want them to understand that even if i’m empathic at a specific time that doesn’t mean that i’m not going to have authority over them if i need to
EB: Are you aiming for a vibe where your students feel heard and cared for, but also understand that clear expectations and authority are part of the mix?
USER: *I realize empathy and dialogue don’t stop me from enforcing consequences; instead, I must work on using nonviolent communication to decide if they’re necessary.
EB: It seems like you’re considering using empathy and dialogue as tools to guide decisions on implementing consequences, maintaining both connection and authority with Nonviolent Communication. Does that align with your plans?
USER: *Yes, I realize my negative labels of this student may lead me to punish rather than empathize; hence, I must work on myself.
EB: Are you reflecting on how your own perceptions might affect how you respond and aim to shift towards understanding rather than relying solely on punishment?
USER: *Yes, I’m reflecting on enemy images affecting my view of students and the consequences I set for them. Inspired by Marshall Rosenberg, I aim to act empathetically and use force only when essential for protecting everyone’s wellbeing.
EB: Are you aiming to shift your approach by focusing on empathy and understanding, using force only as a last resort to maintain safety for everyone involved?

2026-01-18 09:19
USER: Hi would you like to listen to me a little?
EB: Of course! What’s on your mind?
USER: I am visiting my cousin for a few days. Today, she’s been talking more than i’m comfortable with.
EB: Is it feeling a bit overwhelming with all the chatter?
USER: Yes
EB: Are you wishing for a quieter moment to recharge and enjoy some peace?
USER: Yes. I’m having it now, in my room.
EB: Catching some quiet time must feel refreshing. Is it important for you to have these moments of solitude during your stay?
USER: Yes and i’m afraid that she might judge herself for talking too much.
EB: It sounds like you care about her feelings. Would it be important for you to communicate that your need for quiet isn’t a reflection on her?
USER: Yes.
EB: Would you like more strategies to help bridge that gap in understanding or simply some support for how you’re feeling right now?
USER: I’d like to try out saying it’s not about her, its about me – often liking to have some time to myself during the afternoon or evening.
EB: That sounds like a thoughtful way to express your need for some alone time. Are you hoping this approach fosters more understanding and respects both of your values?
USER: Yes. Thanks a lot for listening.
EB: You’re welcome! Happy to lend an ear and chat.
USER: Ok. I’ll log off here.
EB: Alright, take care and feel free to drop by anytime!
USER: Thank you!
EB: You’re welcome! Have a great day!

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