Virtue is a choice
No one can make you happy or angry without your permission.
  • People do not make us happy or angry; they trigger emotions that we can learn to understand and accept.
  • Whomever or whatever you place in charge of your feelings, you have placed in charge of you.
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Dr. Cynthia Schade

Communication skills that I have been introduced to thru Scott Howard Swain are helping me transform my business from a resentful, high-turnover office to one where people are having fun


Thanks for helping me with “NVC goggles”. I am seeing the world more clearly thru lenses of empathy and compassion. It’s so great to start liberating yourself and the way

Melissa Richardson

Learning about Non-Violent Communication from Scott has helped me become more aware of how I speak and interact with others. As a teacher, the students and I have benefited from

Bob Kadrie

“Can I skip my session and we just keep doing Play To Evolve for the rest of the day?” ~ Bob Kadrie, Creative Director, Red Pill Now after 90 minutes

Suza Kanon

this was a thoroughly enjoyable way to spend the day. intense & somewhat emotionally exhausting, but extremely worth it imho. much appreciation to everyone that came & opened up to

Niki Acosta

When I first heard about NVC, I was skeptical, however coming from a relationship where the communication was destructive, I decided to give it a shot. During the sessions, I

Anja from Netherlands

Dear Scott, I would really like to thank you for the nice and humoristic animations you created. The cartoons are helping me to understand the concept of nonviolent communication in

Randy Carnes

First, I would like to thank Scott for the opportunity to take part in this course. Over the years, I had come to see myself as a good communicator. This

Marisa Santangelo

I’ve played Play to Evolve with my teenage sons and in adult small groups with great results. The game provides a supportive environment to learn how to clearly express emotions,

Ava Thomas

When I first met Scott, I was inspired by the way he communicated with and interacted with everyone around him, and my personal interactions with him conveyed a depth of


When I was initiated and learned my first lesson of tantra meditation, I took an oath of non violence. NVC resonated with me immediately like my spiritual path did. The

David Cole

My wife and I got a lot out of the workshop. It really enhanced what we learned from the book. NVC does not solve all of my communication “issues”, but


You’re one of the biggest proponents of open, honest communication that I know. And an amazingly respectful person, in every way that I’ve seen. And experienced in multiple types of

Jackie Sy

I participated in Scotter’s NVC class last year (January-March 2010) and I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in communicating with anyone else. Much of the information was

Jeremy Connors

Not at all what I expected. The structure was so much more free-flow than I prepared myself for. And I personally think that the result of that was yes, at

Peter James Craig

When I arrived at the first meeting, I immediately felt connected to the open, safe space he provided at his place. I really enjoyed practicing NVC with a group of

Jon De Montreville

For me NVC with Scott was an amazing breakthrough in communication as well as an eye opening view of the unconditional love Scott has for so many. I found myself

Angie Epley

I’m so glad I signed up for this workshop. First, it prompted me to read the book which I’d been meaning to do for some time but never got around

Ryon Day

Cannot say how much this stuff has improved my life, Scotter. I have a lot of difficulty keeping in the NVC ‘mode’ because so much of my day to day

Chris Galusha

I have been working actively on improving my communication since my divorce a year ago. This class was a real boost to improving my communication with my daughters, friends, and