I want to go out and he wants to stay in

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Animation created January 2012

A couple arguing about what activity to do together. She wants to go out but he wants to stay in. These “wants” are strategies to get needs/values met. They choose to go below strategies to investigate the needs-that-inform-those-strategies using Practical Empathy based on Practical Empathy (get Scott’s book here) and Nonviolent Communication (NVC). This allows them to see there are other strategies to meet their needs/values. So when each “player” sees there are multiple ways (strategies) to get their needs/values met, they realize some of those ways work for both of them.

We all need more empathy!

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